ONE - #1
So, our Feb 21 topic was on relationships. We will be on this series for awhile, using some material by Aaron Stern. Thanks, Rob, for the definitions of "cleve." That sure helps to set the "meat cleaver" idea aside!
Here is the handout from the 21st. If you want the "answers," you will have to review the comment section - I will post a rough draft of the audio tape there.
ONE: navigating the world of dating and relationships Lesson ONE: how it all started
What are “BIG IDEAS?”
Gen 1:1 “In the beginning God…..”
Our presupposition needs to be _________. (What’s a “presupposition”??)
When are relationships successful?
BIG IDEA, ONE
Gen 1:26-27 “Then God said, "Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground." So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.”
We are made in the image of _________. (What’s the big idea there??)
How does this big idea apply to me?
If this is true of me, what is the application here for the person that I am (or want to be) in a relationship with?
BIG IDEA, TWO
The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. Gen 2:18-20
Man was alone and he needed __________________.
When men, with God, _________ their lives, they are then ready for God to introduce a _____________ into it.
Why does this lead to a better chance for success in relationships?
BIG IDEA, THREE
So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman,' for she was taken out of man." For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Gen 2:21-24
Rhymes with Steve, two words: _____________ and ______________.
What’s the big idea here?
BIG IDEA, FOUR
The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. Gen 2:25
God’s intent was for one man, one woman and ________ _________________.
God is able to take away the shame, and help us to start __________ and __________.
posted by Wade at 2/22/2006 09:38:00 PM
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Audio notes:
The book that has been overlooked is the Bible. It has the answers; it’s where we need to turn to find out how to live.
No section on “dating” – but there are big ideas on how to deal and interact with people that will make the difference on how our lives end up.
Disclaimers – already married and out of the dating scene. I’m a man.
Trying to overcome those ideas. It’s not about my theory but about what God thinks. It applies to us all.
Big ideas. They inform how we live on a daily basis. Get these principals down first. We have to determine them ahead of time to see how we will respond in the situation.
One: How it all started
Gen 1:1 Our presupposition needs to be “God.” In order to go into a relationship correctly our presupposition needs to be God. A “Presupposition” is how you look at things. How do you look at dating. We need to look at dating through the lens of God. Relationships are successful only when an awareness of God is foremost in our hearts. If that is not true, you have no business even thinking about a dating relationship.
BIG IDEA Gen 1:26, 27 “Let us make man… he created them.” Repetition in these verses. Repetition is something that we need to pay attention to. We need to understand that we are made in the image of God. The fact is that because God made us in his image, we have unlimited intrinsic value. That means that it’s who you are. The value that God put in you compares to nothing that this world can offer. Nothing that anyone else can offer you. If we understand that, when someone comes up to you and says “wow, you’re amazing,” – you don’t become a sponge for approval because you already have value in god. Because we are made in his image, our value does not come from other people. We are not begging for love and acceptance from people, because we don’t need that. We have found that value and significance in God. We are rooted and grounded in the fact that we are made in God’s image.
New Testament. Because of Jesus’ death on the cross – we have total and complete acceptance. Our relationship with god has been restored. We don’t need to run around and find it from someone else. If we understand that, it will affect how long our relationships last, what they look like, etc. The boundaries are strong when our acceptance is in Christ.
Others have the same intrinsic value! That should affect how we view others. We don’t date based on what others can “give” me. (Like, “You next to me will make me look great!”) We need to look and see that someone else is made in the image of God as well. It’s not how you can benefit me, but about God in their life. Those two ideas could stop this series. You and the other person are both made in the image of God.
BIG IDEA “It is good.” Gen 2:18 “It is not good...” Man alone is not good. It’s God’s plan that we need each other. God established a framework that we need each other. Man needs assistance.
Gen 2:19 name the creatures. Man needs some help – but that help is not found in the animals.
Guys: When men, with God, order their lives, they are then ready for God to introduce a women into it. Too many men are inviting women into chaos. Adams’ life was organized before the woman was introduced. There is a much better chance for success when this is true.
Gen 2:21 “So the Lord…sleep. And while…flesh. Then…out of a man.”
Leave his father and mother, become one flesh. No shame. Leave and cleave. Big ideas.
Nobody wants to get married and move in with mom and dad. The idea is that we need to be detached, stabilized, and moving forward with our lives.
We need to be disconnected with mama. Specifically to us guys. Then we can ask the girl to “come join me” in what God is doing.
There are different roles for men and women. Although there is complete equality in value between the two. Both are equally valuable.
God will move the man and the woman forward in the calling together.
Last idea 2:25 The man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.
No shame. Some have been with someone else and now there is shame in your life. That’s not how God intended it to be. He intended no shame because of the purity and the healthy way that he established it. One woman, one man.
If we can get the idea that God wants these ideas to be the principals upon which we base our dating lives. He is able to take away those things that brought us shame.
God knows what’s best for our lives. Worship, growth, etc. But also – God knows what is best for how we should date, for how our relationships should be. God is a God who sent his Son so that these things might be made new and redeemed by Him. God can start fresh and start new, so that we might honor and glorify him in everything we do.
God can help us break the bad relationship cycle. Maybe tonight God can start reworking things in our life so that his ideas and standards can be set deep in our hearts. That is what God has called us to.
These are important ideas that will either make or break your relationships, your marriage.
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